Thursday, September 3, 2009

The social life cycle of a Korean woman


One of my majors at university was Anthropology. I have a curious mind about people and cultures - about family life, work ethics, expectations from society and so on. Contrary to other foreigners I know here, I have more Korean friends than I have foreign friends. And I've learned so much about the lifestyle through them. I know about Korea's good, bad and ugly sides!

Today, Kim shared this with me relating to Korean culture. It's something that Koreans believe 'happens' - of course, it's just a generalization! (and how we reached this in our conversation is blurry to me now)

For the purpose of this blog, I've created a character to illustrate what I'm trying to say.
We'll call her Sue.

  • When Sue is in her teens (age 13-19), others may be envious of her beauty/academics at school. As with most teenage rivalry - regardless of where you live in this world, she has 'everything' and is usually the first to start dating during Middle School.

  • When Sue is in her 20's, she may have plastic surgery done without many people knowing (VERY COMMON in Korea), and other girls will admire her thinking that she's *so* blessed to be *so* beautiful. Also, Sue will date a string of guys. She's the girl everyone wants to be seen with.

  • When Sue is in their 30's, others will be envious of her because she's settled down with a very decent husband who works in the corporate heart of Seoul. Of course, no one forgets her reputation during her 20's. They are bitter that she was able to have soooo many guys on her list and STILL settle down with someone *nice*

  • When Sue is in her 40's, others will be envious of her children who will be well-educated and attend private academies which means they'll enter top universities which will almost secure them with a high-status/high-paying job.

  • When Sue is in her 50's, others will be envious of her figure. Believe me when I say that Korean women are fierce when it comes to their health and physical appearance. Sue is the kind of person who can eat 'anything' and still have killer thighs and a flat tummy.

  • ...and it's when Sue reaches the golden years of her 60's that others (women?!) are the *most* envious of her. It's a possibility she may be widowed during these years. Her husband (a businessman) would have left her *tons* of cash. Her children are about to settle into their own (perhaps married) lives. Ummm, Sue *MAY* even decide to take on a university 'toyboy' for when she's feeling lonesome - Yes! This happens :)

  • Sue is "free" once again - and as she gracefully ages, still strutting down the streets of Gangnam in her designer suits and heels, other women will still look at her and be green with envy. Sue *REALLY* had it good during her entire life!
Of course, this is a major generalization about Korean women, but I'm sure it can relate to women elsewhere in the world?!

Anyways... just something light-hearted and fun :)

4 comments:

Nicki said...

Although I'm not Korean, I totally agree with the Korean generalization.

I love learning about other cultures too.

I think a lot of Asian women have taken the path of plastic surgery now.

For Korean women, it's the eyelids that is most common.

For Lao women, it's breast implants. But they are proud and flaunt it.

It's everywhere.

Women are envious creatures.

Sheetal said...

@ Nicki:

FOR SURE! Korean women have this thing about eyelids - which I have *just* written about :)

And right ... regardless of culture women are envious creatures - nicely said :)

hero said...

As far i have noticed, women are good and they are usually like boys. i mean that women and men are equal in most of the aspects. not only men have attractiveness to good looking girls but women too have attractiveness to good looking men.

but one thing i have to tell you that men is flexible before committed to any relationships (sexually or dating), like they even love a less - good looking girl and sorry to say that i have seen no girl (mostly less - good looking) ever wants to commit or atleast be a good friend to a less - good looking boy !!!!!!!!!

in this aspect women have to change !!!!!!!

This message is mainly to those women or girls(less - good looking). And am very sorry for using the word "less good looking" , because i cant use the word "bad looking" as i believe that no one in this world, men or women are Bad looking :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

hero said...

As far i have noticed, women are good and they are usually like boys. i mean that women and men are equal in most of the aspects. not only men have attractiveness to good looking girls but women too have attractiveness to good looking men.

but one thing i have to tell you that men is flexible before committed to any relationships (sexually or dating), like they even love a less - good looking girl and sorry to say that i have seen no girl (mostly less - good looking) ever wants to commit or atleast be a good friend to a less - good looking boy !!!!!!!!!

in this aspect women have to change !!!!!!!

This message is mainly to those women or girls(less - good looking). And am very sorry for using the word "less good looking" , because i cant use the word "bad looking" as i believe that no one in this world, men or women are Bad looking :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)